:: The SV100 Tactic :: crjames.com I'm going to keep things simple. The main purpose of this tactic to show that how the story is framed makes a big difference. If you can see (even without doing it) how it could create a stronger effect, then that's the biggest lesson. Message within story + Framing = Strong Impact The quality of both things affects the impact. For example, a few times I referenced the story of bugs that I told my wife. That was told 15 years ago on the second day of meeting her - it was a 2 minute story - and she has referenced it dozens of times through the years. She said she told friends about it. She's thought about out of the blue on occasions and it made her smile. The exact breakdown of all of individual things that created the strong effect on her I may never fully understand. That's fine. What I am certain of is that. The story had an inspirational message that she appreciated. It made me more desirable. The presentation (framing) of story had a lot to do with the impact. Based on my finite understanding of women, I can confidently say that if I had told her the same story 2 minutes after introducing myself to her, it wouldn't have had a strong effect. Instead I told it to her after sharing a mutually enjoyable phone conversation and it was getting late and I told her that now it's time for her bedtime story. She laughed and said 'Ok' I told her the story and she loved it. She couldn't stop thinking about it. Even today she still brings up. When I asked recently, what's the one thing I did that made her fall in love, I was pretty sure what she was going to say. If you're creative (and I don't mean in the ability-to-create-stories sense, but in the 'imaging what works' without doing in sense), then you already know when something works before doing it.
It's a not-so-talked-about trait, that for now I'm labeling as 'being creative'. For example, John knows that his wife loves tight hugs, kisses on the neck, being told I love you and 'being on top' (during sex) If you give John the idea of the next time your girlfriend is on top, hug her tightly, saying I love you while kissing on her neck, he'll start smiling immediately because even though he's never done all 4 at the same time, he knows pleasure (psychological and emotional) creates an accumulative effect. Zack on the other hand isn't creative (in this sense). So even though his wife loves the same 4 things, the idea of doing all 4 registers in his mind as something that has never been proven. And yes, he's right. His flaw is that overvalues counter-examples (or the possibility of) and doesn't fully understand the concept of accumulative effect. So is it better to be like John or Zach? Technically, it's not a fair question. Zach on the other hand may be a lot better of consistently doing something once it has been proven to him. People who are not-socreative are often able to do stuff over and over again much like a robot - without ever getting bored. So to the answer the question it's better to be like both. Awhile back I had an idea of giving my wife a customized gift with a special meaning. First of all, 1. She loves cute nicknames (giving and receiving) 2. She loves kittens 3. She loves seeing her name on stuff 4. She loves compliments about her being amazing 5. She loves gifts (By the way, how many women do you think that applies to? LOL) However, at the time, I have never (in my entire human existence) given her a surprise gift (5) that was a customized T-shirt with a kitten image (2) that had her cute nickname on it (1 & 3) while saying "I'm giving you this because you're amazingly special and blah blah blah" (4). She started crying!
I knew it would have a strong effect even though I've never done it before. Well, in this regard, it's good to be like John who has a concept of accumulative effect ( of individual things that have been proven to work) Another thing. And this is another good trait to have. Is to think how to improve things that have already proven to have a strong effect. For example, (luckily) I'm capable of imagining meeting another woman who would also be positively effected by a story yet it might not have had the same level of impact. Remember there are always unknown factors that are often working for you. Possible Examples: A woman likes you slightly more because you remind her of her dad A hot woman approaches you and turns out to be the most amazing woman you've ever met, but it was a situation where you probably wouldn't have approached her and she only approached you because 4 of her friends have been talking about guys they approached and it gave her permission to 'join the club' Your girlfriend when she was a little girl use to get read bedtime stories by her father who she admires. (The list is infinite!) The point is it's not fair for me to assume that the same story would have the same exact level of impact on another woman - let's say someone from my past who happens to be extremely similar to my wife. The point is, it's a reason to think about ways to make the impact of a story (or actually any tactic that builds value, connection and other positive effects) even more powerful. With all of the said, let's introduce the SV100 Tactic (and as always the word 'tactic' is used respectfully, compassionately and semi-humorously when looking at the big picture). For now, let's mention three things that I did on separate occasions that had a powerful impact on her: - A bedtime story about bugs with an inspiration message (we talked about this) - A cute kitten-themed gift/compliment (we talked about this, too) - A miniature kitten figurine (cost $3.99) One day she was having trouble with something and she kept obsessing over it. She wouldn't let it go. Whenever, I said 'just let it go and stop obsessing over it' I noticed it never work. I gave her a quote that I thought would cheer her up. For me, putting something in perspective is the best way that will make me feel better about a situation.
She's not the same way. From her perspective (of her perception of what she believes she needs), a good listener along with a generic message of 'everything will work out' is what (she believes) she craves the most. So I decided to go to the store and get her a miniature kitten figurine. Not a stuffed animal. It's more like a miniature paper weight - if you know what I'm talking about. Anyway, I presented her with it and said "This is your Courage Kitten. He's your friend. He goes on your desk. Whenever you want to share a problem with him, just tell it to him and he'll listen and then tell you 'everything will work out'. Pretty soon, you'll start to feel better because that's his job. Keep in mind, that technically there is no reason to believe that a legitimate social interaction is taken place because her in the object (that has been shaped into the form of a smiling kitten). The emotional attachment is created in her mind. Even though I never tried this TACTIC before I knew it would work (based on understanding women and my wife specifically) I was right! It cheered her up. The smiling kitten was next to her keyboard and with her throughout her day. It was a visual anchor that elicited a recipe of 'good feelings' It was a successful mission for two reasons! 1. It cheered her up! 2. I didn't have to hear her endless whining anymore!! (Yay!!!!!!!!) Let's face, some people feel as though they have to complain. There are some people who say stuff like You should Never Complain!!! I don't agree (completely). I think some people aren't responsive to that message and therefore they should complain! However if they decide that they're going to complain, they should give themselves a time limit and say something like "I'm going to bitch and complain for exactly 10 minutes and then I'm going to develop a strategy for improving the situation or minimizing the pain." Because of this belief, I can only tolerate a certain amount of complaining (in the absence of a solution) before it starts to annoy me. With that said, I learned (or confirmed) that an object with an emotional attachment works like $%& crazy!!!!!!
So here's the SV100 Tactic that you haven't done before - yet you already know it will work like crazy!!!!!! Remember the SV100 Tactic is simultaneously a tactic you should do and an example that proofs that framing the story in a certain way affects the overall impact that it has on her. (I told my first story to my wife as bedtime story while kind of knowing there could have been a lesser way of presenting that would have diminished the overall impact.) So here are the steps Step 1: Buy her some sort of toy/figurine/object. Step 2: Give it to her (optional: along with a compliment) And say tonight I'm going to tell you the bedtime story of a Marie The Kitten! (or whatever) Step 3: Find the story with the right message for her. And if you're familiar with the Under Signals concept (from thelaughableanswer.com) it makes it more powerful as you can imagine. If she has been obsessing over the fact that her parents don't want her to do something that is a big dream for her, then saying something 'do what you want!' might now have the same effect as the SV100 Tactic. (Saying something like 'Do what you want. Chase your dreams' is what an average guy says when he's at his peak. So don't even attempt to explain to him the SV100 Tactic. His brain would explode like a rifle hitting a watermelon!!!) Step 4: Modify the story if you want to make it more powerful. Step 5: Tell her the story! Let's go through the steps again (This time visually).
Step 1: Buy her some sort of toy/figurine/object. Step 2: Give it to her (optional: along with a compliment) You: I got a surprise for you. Her: What is it? You: (showing her your closed hand) It's in here. I'm giving you this because you're amazing and... (opening your hand revealing the miniature kitten figurine inside) I think you deserve to be reminded about how much I appreciate you Her: It's soooo cute!! You: She's yours. Her name is Marie the Kitten (or Marie or Whiskers or whatever) and tonight I will tell you a bedtime story about her, ok? Her: Ok. (Note: However you decide to link the presentation of the gift with the story is up to you. There are several options. You could do: The bedtime story approach: Her name is Marie the Kitten and tonight I will tell you a bedtime story about her.
The instant story approach: Her name is Marie the Kitten. Do you know the story of Marie the Kitten? ("No") Well according to the legend she wanted to start kitten school (give a full or condensed version of the Pursuit of Happiness [Follow your dreams] story right there on the spot. The printout approach: Print out the (modified) story on fancy paper and present the gift (kitten) in a wrapped box with the printed out story. (We'll discuss the modified story in a second.) The card approach: Buy a blank hallmark card and write out the (modified) story using your own handwriting. Put the card in the envelope and write on the outside 'Marie The Kitten'. And present the card with the gift (kitten figurine) together! If you're like John then you're thinking 'Wow! That's just nasty-awesome! I know that's going to work!' If you're like Zach you're thinking 'Hmmm. Are you positively certain that the SV100 Tactic is going to have an effect on a woman? I've never done this before!!!' If you like John then you're thinking 'Ok this is a good way of teaching the lesson that there are ways to get more impact out of a story' If you're like Zach you're thinking 'Hmmm. Are you positively certain that this way of introducing a story is better than just printing it out (unmodified) on paper and saying 'Here! Read this!'
Step 4: Modify the story if you want to make it more powerful & Step 5: Tell her the story! Go to the dashboard file and select a story (hopefully one that is in alignment with a message she needs to hear and/or a message that she enjoys hearing). Find the corresponding file and open it (to edit it or use in whatever way)
For example, using the Pursuit of Happiness file/story we could change it slightly to make it more impactful. The Pursuit of Happiness Chester was a tiny little Chihuahua. He was excited to start pup school, but he was also nervous because he had no idea what trade he wanted to pursue. After months of waiting, he finally realized.. (The story continues) << becomes >> Marie The Kitten Marie was a tiny little kitten who was smart, creative and loved to paint every Saturday afternoon (conveniently describe her traits and what she enjoys doing). She was excited to start kitten school, but she was also nervous because she had no idea what trade she wanted to pursue. Then you would complete the modifications throughout the whole story. So don't just stop at the first two sentences like I did above, otherwise you'll send a confusing message. She'll end up thinking that the lesson is that kittens are capable of morphing into Chihuahuas (which has very little inspirational value). The (potential) bonus impact is when she connects the inspiration impact of the story with the belief that she can accomplish a big goal, get through a bad situation, adjust her beliefs in a meaningful way. It falls under the category of if you want to be extremely valuable to her, then you have to be extremely valuable to her. Although we (loosely) label this as a TACTIC, what's really going on is you end up actually increasing the chances (tremendously!) that she'll follow her dream (or whatever the message is). Often times when a person is struggling with something it's her outlook that puts her on the right path.
So you increase your value (quickly) because you ended up increasing your value (quickly) There was a report I created about 2-3 years that I barely promoted it was a limited time bonus report and then I removed it and created a separate page for it, but I never promoted it. I actually ended up updating the report last year without ever sending any promotional message for it. I planned on it at one time and then I just never got around to it. The only reason why I thought of it just now (http://superpowermedia.com/15times/) is because the guy that I referenced is still having an amazing sex life due to something that is similar to what we'll be doing with SV100! Keep in mind, during that time, he called me complaining like crazy about how she hates having sex. And then later he's calling me talking about how she's been hyper-horny. Imagine my confusion (which lead to my curiosity to what he did). For a guy who knows very little about seduction, one of the things that he did that was brilliant was he bought her a gift (a mood ring) and jokingly said that they have magic crystals inside and then he linked it to everything that he said to her and everything he did (which is what the report is all about). Keep in mind, he had no idea that everything he did (the combo) created the explosion. In his mind, it was random. He didn't know that the sequence of actions created an impact. He STILL doesn't know that the fuel of horniness is emotional impact (specifically, a sequence and steady campaign of events that create emotional impact) How come he never made the connection of 'what he did' to 'create the impact'? You would expect him to realize the impact Of course I'm the same guy who told a woman an inspirational bedtime story that indirectly sent SV messages about who he is + increased the connection (quickly) + ended up being the most memorable event early on in the relationship (when at the time, I was just trying to be funny) So at that time, I didn't realize the power/impact of the story I told My guess is that my friend was 'just trying to be funny' and different (just like I was trying to do) with the mood ring thing, but as I experienced later (and taught on a few occasions) linking an object (mood ring, kitten figurine, kitten T-shirt, etc.) to an
emotional message magnifies the message + keeps it alive much longer (as a visual anchor/reminder) In my friend's case where his girlfriend was horny all of the time (a short-term super nympho), the important thing to remember is that a woman's craving for sex is often driven by a (non-sexual) emotional/psychological craving. Put simply: Often times when a (traditional) nympho craves sex all of the time, it's not because she's watching porno 2 hours a day. It's often something like the (non-sexually based) craving of male attention. Sex = Guys like me. or Sex = I am special. (Note: I've wrote about the T-shirt thing I did a few times, and if you remember I talked about how my wife ended up initiating sex 3 times in one day.) So as a side note: Sex represents more to most women than just the 'urge for physical pleasure', which is (kinda) an important thing to know when you're engineering emotional impact and creating object-based associations. So there you go, have fun! Warmly, CR James crjames.com