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Chapter 1: So You Want To Be Witty, Eh? pg. 3 Chapter 2: Out With The Old, In With The New pg. 5 Chapter 3: The Fearless Banter Formula pg. 12 www.swaggersocial.com 2

So You Want To Be Witty, Eh? What is going on man! You are looking mighty fine today. Speaking of today, TODAY we are going to be discussing one of the topics that I am most passionate about Banter. More specifically, how do you develop the skill of being able to pull some witty line out of thin-air, effortlessly, and without using any canned lines. If you are looking for a pre-made list of lines that you can memorize and parrot to women, then you are reading the wrong book. Yes, plenty of lines will be sprinkled throughout this book as examples, but the true purpose here is to help you train your wittiness muscle so that you can naturally come up with your own clever lines on the spot. And it doesn t matter if you don t think you re clever enough to do this on your own right now, because I m telling you You are. And this book is going to prove that to you. Now if there s one thing you need to know about me before we get started, it s this I was a virgin until the age of 21 I was not popular in high school I used to intentionally not cuss in front of women I liked because if she heard me drop the f- bomb, then god-forbid she would think I was an asshole and not be attracted to me Long story short, I used to SUCK with women. That was until I made the conscious decision that I was going to get good with women, or DIE trying. [Almost reminds me of that old 50 Cent rap album Get Rich Or Die Trying ] Just to give you an idea of how far I ve come in my own personal journey www.swaggersocial.com 3

A few weeks ago, I met an Instagram model in a nightclub who told me that I was out of HER league after just 15 minutes of talking Not too long after that, I met a fashion designer in southern California, who literally stole my phone so she could put her number into it The catch: My phone had a passcode, so she had to write her number on a piece of paper, and then take a picture of her number with my phone Yes, she literally MacGyver-ed her digits into my phone. These days I have complete and total abundance with women, and it all stemmed from the conscious decision I made to get good at this once and for all. Because dude, what other choice do we have? We live in a world of natural selection. If you don t figure out how to attract a girl enough to where she wants to sleep with you, then your genes WILL end with you when you die. And if you re seeing this, then that means one thing You are already one step ahead of 99% of men out there. Congrats. On some level, you ve already made that decision to get this area of your life handled once and for all. You ve invested in yourself, and in this program. And here s the best part If I can do it, then you can do, and TODAY I m gonna show you how. But first let s get rid of all the dead weight holding you down www.swaggersocial.com 4

Out With The Old, In With The New Now before we get into exactly HOW you re going develop the ability to fearlessly banter with any girl Let s hit on some basics about being witty in a way that attracts women. Let s start with the 3 main MYTHS Banter MYTH #1: Women Are Attracted To Funny Men. We ve all heard this, right? You ask just about any girl what qualities she wants in a man, and she ll instantly say I want a man who can make me laugh. Hearing that, us men assume that she means she s attracted to funny men. And this is complete nonsense. Here s the truth The type of laughter that she loves is the laughter she experiences when bantering with a High Value man, not a funny man. Making her laugh does NOT come from you acting like a stand-up comedian, telling the funny jokes, or acting like a clown Laughter that boosts attraction comes from her inability to handle tension. And the more you can spike tension in a high value way, then the higher her attraction will go for you by the second. We ll go into more specifics about creating tension later on [In fact, I ve got an entire formula for developing natural wit in an upcoming chapter.] For now just realize that pure laughter does not equal attraction. She s not attracted to the dancing-monkey, clown-boy. www.swaggersocial.com 5

She is attracted to the calm, cool, collected man who can create and handle momentary tension which eventually turns into sexual tension. For now, the way I want you to think about this is by imaging Ryan Gosling in the movie Crazy, Stupid, Love vs. Aziz Ansari A B [Facilitator of Tension = Attraction] [Clown that cracks wise jokes Attraction] Let s break down these 2 examples above really quickly In picture A, of Ryan Gosling, this screenshot comes the instant after he says the line How are you doing this wildly sexy, but unbelievably cute thing that you re doing? But notice a few things here Right after delivering that line, there was a moment of awkward tension A brief pause where she s analyzing what he just said, and waiting to see how he ll handle this moment. And he handles it like a champ. Look at him Leaning back Sly smile on his face Dominant, yet relaxed eye contact. This man is calm under pressure. And how does she react? By laughing. www.swaggersocial.com 6

Now imagine if Ryan Gosling said the same thing, but right after delivering the line, he looked like Aziz Ansari in picture B Hands up in the air Raised eyebrows Body language that almost conveys Tadaaaahhh, don t you think what I just said was funny and clever??? The line would have been nowhere near as powerful. In fact, she may have been slightly repulsed. Under tension, Aziz Ansari s reaction to the tension made it obvious that he only said the line to get a positive reaction out of her And ultimately, the lack of ability to handle that tension fucked him up. Moral of the story: Tension When set, and left the space to grow Will turn into laughter, which turns into attraction. More on this in a second Banter MYTH #2: You Have To Keep Her Entertained. Wittiness, and banter are just a spice in the dish. Most men make the mistake of overusing this stuff when they first learn a few witty lines Right off the bat they imagine how awesome it ll be to deliver these lines, and then they go out and bombard women over the head with them. This is a mistake. It s almost like if you were making chocolate chip cookies, and decided to use the entire container of salt, rather than just a dash, for the cookie dough. Same with women. Hint: Ain t nobody want a salty chocolate chip cookie. www.swaggersocial.com 7

If you keep disqualifying her, teasing her, challenging her Then you re just gonna burn out the fuse, and she s gonna conclude that you are just another asshole that she absolutely, positively won t sleep with. Leave the job of keeping her entertained to the dancing monkey s [aka anybody who s not reading this book right now]. Rather than being her entertainment for the night, you want to create intrigue and lead her down an unpredictable adventure. Big difference. And finally Banter MYTH #3: You Have To Be Clever To Be Witty. Listen dude, you don t have to be the most clever guy in the world to be witty. In fact, a widely accepted UCLA study shows that ~93% of all communication is NON-verbal. This means if your words were as clever as possible, then she d only be ~7% more impressed with your wit, than if what you said was not clever at all. So what does this mean for you? Dude, she doesn t care about WHAT you re saying She cares about the VIBE you re giving off while saying whatever you say. In other words, it s not what you say, it s how you say it. Let s go back to the Ryan Gosling vs. Aziz Ansari example Imagine again that they both delivered the same line from the Crazy, Stupid, Love scene: How are you doing this wildly sexy, but unbelievably cute thing that you re doing? And just like outlined above, the two men communicated something completely different in their body language www.swaggersocial.com 8

Obviously the girl is more likely to respond better to Ryan Gosling EVEN though the words were exactly the same. And this had almost nothing to do with looks. The main difference came in the body language and vocal tonality of the two men when delivering the witty line. Having the right nonverbal communication can instantly take your VIBE from creepy to sexy in an instant Here s a quick checklist of questions to go through in your head when talking to any girl: -Are you making eye contact with her when speaking to her? Or are you looking down and to the side? -Are you speaking loud enough for her to hear you? Or are you speaking under your breath? -Are you calm and grounded? Or do you keep fidgeting around? -Are you smiling, and look happy to be talking to her? Or do you look scared out of your mind? That said, nonverbal communication is a completely other topic on it s own Something that I could write an entirely different book on. Heck, maybe I already have by the time you re seeing this But YOU, my friend, are here to learn how to become witty. So let s cover one last thing here before we jump into the formula that will UNLEASH the witty beast within you [And just to prove to you how powerful tension, tonality, and my love for Ryan Gosling in Crazy, Stupid, Love is Check out this scene from the movie, and compare how Ryan Gosling talks to women vs. how Steve Carell talks to them. Notice how differently the women respond to these two men as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qu6mohpxyaq ] The #1 Killer of All Female Attraction: Neediness. www.swaggersocial.com 9

This is the silent monster that s been killing female attraction since the dawn of time. [Being needy will also repel your guy friends, and potential business deals, just as powerfully as it repels women.] Neediness has three main symptoms: Reaction seeking, Approval seeking, and Validation seeking. This one is very simple to fix, but not quite as obvious to most men. And since you clearly want to become the wittiest version of yourself, who can banter with the hottest women, I ll clue you in on it Let me ask you a question Have you ever watched a really good stand-up comedian do comedy? If yes, does this guy usually tell a joke and then start laughing at his own jokes? Does he look at specific people in the audience right after saying the joke, and wait for them to laugh? Or much worse laugh nervously in hopes that people will join him in laughing? The answer is FUCK no. [Unless you re Aziz Ansari from the example above sorry Aziz if you happen to be reading this. :-)] Most likely he will say a joke, and look away while he waits for them to STOP laughing, almost as if he already assumes that people will laugh at his joke. Really good comedians understand that you should never laugh at your own jokes because this is very Approval Seeking usually just done out of nervousness. Think of it like this: If person A said something thinking it was funny, and he looked for the reaction from person B, then who has the power in that interaction?... Person B has the power because now he can choose to validate person A by laughing, or invalidate by not laughing. However, if Person A said something purely because he himself found it funny, and didn t care what Person B thought, then no power has been given to Person B. www.swaggersocial.com 10

An even more common example of this is nodding after saying something to another person. Whether you make a joke, say something clever, or say just about anything You should never be nodding or seeking for some sort of reaction out of anybody who might have heard you. The Hungry Never Get Fed. From today on, the only person who you act to entertain is YOURSELF. The only person who has to think what you say is funny, or clever, is YOU. Reaction Seeking, Approval Seeking, and/or Validation Seeking = Full frontal display Neediness. Cut this out from your life all together. Deal? Deal. www.swaggersocial.com 11

The Fearless Banter Formula It s the moment we ve all been waiting for The scientifically proven formula that SCIENTISTS use to get laid! Haha. Just kidding. Yes, scientists can use this to get laid. But to my knowledge, this is the first published document of this formula. Empirically tested by the small circle of men I ve personally taught it to, and the 1000 s of women who it s worked on. This is a simple formula, and after you get done reading this book, it ll be so engrained into your memory, that you may even see massive results as soon as tonight. Here it is It s called the D.T.F. Formula. What does D.T.F. stand for you ask? Well since everything you read on the internet is obviously true, I went ahead and googled the definition for you. According to the scientific publication known as Urban Dictionary, D.T.F. simply means: www.swaggersocial.com 12

But for our purposes, D.T.F. is not only an acronym, it s also a double entendre [As well as a predictor of her future state of mind after coming across any man wielding the D.T.F. Formula] Here s how I, Patrick James, define D.T.F : D - Disqualify T - Timing F - Frames Let s jump right in shall we? D stands for Disqualify There s this timeless story of a man named Donald Trump Once upon a time, the young and money-hungry tycoon, Donald Trump, steps into an elevator at the bottom floor of a skyscraper Just as the doors are about to shut, a young, and gorgeous woman with all the right curves in all the right places slips into the elevator at the last second It s just the two of them, and this ride is set to go all the way to the top. Upon realizing this, the woman says I know you. You re Donald Trump, one of the richest men in the world. We re alone in this elevator. Right here, right now, I could strip naked and we could have wild, spontaneous, passionate, animal sex. Donald pauses Sizes her up, as he thinks, and calmly says But what s in it for me? Now regardless of your opinions on politics, or Donald Trump Nobody can argue with the fact that the man always has a perfect comeback for everything. www.swaggersocial.com 13

He is a true artist of wit and banter, and the story above says it all. Now just to give you a little hindsight, today I m writing to you from the wonderful city of Scottsdale, AZ A city full of beautiful people, where the average woman makes the most in-demand girls from most other cities look mediocre. Fact is, the women here are beautiful. And there is one thing that almost nobody, not even the gorgeous women of Scottsdale, can resist Being told No. Most girls live in this reality where they believe men are supposed to approach THEM, and then they get to choose Yes or No based on how the man presents himself. It s the way society has trained us. And this is a GOOD thing for us men because it means that women, especially the attractive ones, are not used to being said No to. This is where disqualification comes in. Or rather Qualification The term Qualify comes from the profession of sales. Any good salesperson will tell you that the only reason they re so successful is because they only sell to the people who are RIGHT for the product they offer And the only way to figure this out is by asking the buyer questions that imply Are you qualified to buy what I m offering? Because if not, then we can t do business together. And by doing this you are now flipping the script on them. Attracting women is no different. No longer is SHE the one choosing if she likes you or not YOU are now the chooser in this interaction, and she s going to have to prove her worthiness to you. www.swaggersocial.com 14

It s no different than a job employer putting out an ad in the local newspaper that says, Now hiring. Must have qualities X, Y, and Z. If you feel you meet those qualities, then submit your application here, and we ll contact you for an interview. Now does this mean that you should be mean about your qualification process? Does this mean that you wouldn t disqualify the girls you really want? Does this mean that you are now putting ads in the local paper for a potential girlfriend? No dude! Absolutely not. Unless you really want to. The point I m getting at here is once you realize that YOU have the power to choose who you want to be with, then banter and wit comes easy. No girl wants the guy who wants every girl. Because in a world where every guy is chasing that one hot girl, if you re the guy who sees a quality you truly don t like in her Then you just became the ONE guy in her world that is telling her I m not sold on you, yet. Which instantly makes her want you. TRUTH: We always want what we cannot have. Period. It doesn t matter if 10 seconds ago we wanted nothing to do with that one thing because once we realize we can t have it anyways, we instantly want it. I ll give you a quick, and personal example of how I use disqualification [and also how I got smacked in the throat with karma.] Not too long ago, I was balls deep into the dating scene. Experimenting, and testing every possible way to meet and attract women in the most efficient way possible. So this meant going out during the day, going out every night, and trying every dating app on the market. www.swaggersocial.com 15

One of these dating apps that I happened to test out was called J-Swipe Now if you don t know what J-Swipe is, it s basically just Tinder for Jewish people. The only catch is, I m not Jewish. So here I am, a non-jew, getting matched with all these women who are hoping to find their Kosher prince. And sure enough, it was only a matter of hours before I was set to meet up with a girl from this Jewish dating app. Now contrary to popular belief, I am a generally good human being, so right off the bat I told her that I m not actually Jewish, and that I was using the app to meet cool people in my city. All was good. We went out for a few drinks. Took the party back to my place. And bing-bang-boom, Patrick James sealed the deal. That s when it happened As soon as I showed this girl the door, like a gentleman, I started to itch First it was my forehead. Then my neck. Then my stomach. But the itching was only minor, and it was late, so I went to bed not thinking anything of it. The next morning I woke up, completely red, and slightly swollen. But I m a man, so I popped some allergy meds, forgot about it, and continued on with my day. That was until about 6 P.M. when I sat down to eat dinner by myself While eating I noticed that swallowing was getting relatively difficult due to the swelling on the outside of my neck. www.swaggersocial.com 16

It was at this time that I finally got a little worried and drove myself to the E.R., where doctors immediately gave me a Benadryl I.V. The swelling and itching went down almost instantly. Turns out I was having an allergic reaction to this girl because she owns a cat, and I happen to be highly allergic to those creatures. Yes, one might say I got exactly what I deserved from the goddess of Karma But from that day forward, you better believe that I always make sure a girl doesn t have cats if she wants to come anywhere near my temple of a body. -I meet a girl Here s how this qualification process might look like: -We start talking, and connecting -At some point in the conversation, I ll interject with the question Wait. Are you a cat person or a dog person? -If she replies, I <3 cats. then I ll immediately tell her something like Bummer. You re cool and all, but we can never be together because I m highly allergic to those things It s ok, we can be friends though. Just don t touch me. **Obviously this is said in a playful way** -If she replies, I m totally a dog person. then I ll immediately respond with something like, *sigh of relief* Good. If you would have said cats, then we could never be friends because I m totally allergic to the things. Plus people who prefer cats probably don t have souls. **Obviously this is said in a playful way** Notice how it doesn t really matter how she responds to my qualification question because either way, I can imply the fact that I have standards, and that I am the one deciding if I like her or not. And if I end up disqualifying her away from me, it ll more than likely just make her want me more. www.swaggersocial.com 17

So here are 3 rules to using disqualification in every interaction for yourself moving forward: 1. Always disqualify in a playful way. You don t want to come across as the super weird, angry guy who s just insulting people for not fitting into the qualities that he likes. Be playful about it, and say it with a sly smile on your face. 2. Always leave a light at the end of the tunnel. By doing this you not only imply that you are the chooser in this interaction, but also that you re not sold on her YET With emphasis on the word yet. By leaving the light at the end of the tunnel, you leave the room for her to chase you And you might even spark the challenge of her trying to prove her worth to you. This is good. Because when she s investing energy into proving herself to you, then she ll rationalize it in her own head as If I m investing this much energy into this guy, then I must like him because I wouldn t do this with a man that I don t like. 3. Make these Disqualifiers real for YOU. Again, my goal here is not to give you a list of canned lines that you can memorize and repeat to any girl I want to actually make you a witty person. So here s an exercise that I want you to do right now Think of qualities that you ACTUALLY want in a woman that is worthy of you. A great man once said You must have a map before going into the wilderness. And that is exactly what I want you to make right now your map. www.swaggersocial.com 18

A list of qualities that you actually value. If any girl you meet doesn t meet those standards you have for yourself, then you can legitimately disqualify her based on that list. As long as you follow the 3 rules for disqualifying above, then no matter what, she ll most likely be in to you. And in a world where the women who fit those qualities will be attracted to you for having standards, and the women who don t fit those qualities want you anyways because they can t have you You are KING. [Man, aren t you glad you got your hands on this book? ;-)] So what are the qualities that you value? Do you want a woman who is super independent, motivated, and business oriented? Do you want a woman who reads books? Do you want a woman who loves to go hiking? Or do you want a woman who s life revolves around keeping up with the Kardashians? Only you can truly know what you want. Make a short like 5-10 of the core qualities that you value in a girl, and qualify the F**K out of women based on them. Next up T stands for Timing There are so many things I can teach you about timing, but let s stick to the basics for the purposes of making you a banter machine. TRUTH: Women want a man who leads. A man who acts and speaks with conviction. www.swaggersocial.com 19

A man who knows what he wants, and doesn t let fear stop him from getting it. So I m gonna break Timing down for you into two parts: before talking to her, and while talking to her. Before talking to her: Not too long ago I was out with a client, on a random weeknight, in a dive bar. I was explaining this exact topic to to him, and mid-conversation I pointed out some blonde girl sitting at the bar by herself and I said, Go talk to her. He said, Ok. Stood up. And then stood in place... He couldn t bring himself to actually do it. This is because the SECOND he stood up he started thinking aka the worst thing you can do So when I realized what was going on, I said to myself Fuck it! and I stood up, with no hesitation, walked right over to her, and started a conversation On the 15 foot walk from where I was sitting, to where she was sitting, I had absolutely NO clue what I was going to say. and I intentionally didn t even try to think of anything either. When I finally got to her, I tapped her on the shoulder, and I said the first thing that popped into my head the instant she locked eyes with me: So do you normally come to bars by yourself, and wait for charming men to approach you. Dude, that is LITERALLY the cheesiest line I have ever concocted from my brain. How do you think she reacted? She smiled, and said No, my friends actually just left. And then the conversation took off from there... The funny thing is, after I talked to her for about 30 seconds, my client came up, I introduced them, and they ended up talking for the rest of the night. Did he plan his conversation before joining our conversation? www.swaggersocial.com 20

Did he think of the perfect topic to talk about when he walked up to us? Did he plan how he was going to transition from topic to topic? No. No. And definitely not. The fact of the matter is, the more time you spend thinking about what to do, or how to do it, your brain is going to start coming up with 100 different ways to psych yourself out of actually taking action. Why? Because staying exactly where you re at, and not doing anything is a helluva a lot less risky than talking to a girl who could possibly reject you. I mean what if she has a super alpha boyfriend, who s going to beat us over the head with a beer bottle for talking to her?! I m obviously being facetious, but you get the point I ve seen so many guys waste their time obsessing over the proper way to approach a girl Should you make a bee-line over to her, and start talking? Or should you nonchalantly walk in the vicinity, and then happen to start talking to her almost by accident, simply because she was the closest person to you? Here s my highly controversial answer to this question, and it s guaranteed to be something that you probably never been taught Stop worrying about HOW to approach anybody. This is where the Timing comes in To tell you to not worry about how to approach someone is easier said than done, I get it. So here s the rule I want you to remember: You have 3 seconds to make all the excuses in the world. However, once that clock inside your head strikes 3, you HAVE to start talking to her. People, and women especially, have a 6th sense for this stuff. www.swaggersocial.com 21

For whatever reason, we always know when someone is staring at us. And if you sit there thinking about how for too long, then it won t matter how smooth you are anyways because she s already spotted you, and you ve already creeped her out. Realize, that you ve won the second you walk up and say Hi. Everything after that is just bonus. So now that we ve got that understanding, what about WHILE you re talking to her? The beauty of being perceived as witty is that it s spur of the moment. In fact, the quicker your responses, the wittier people will think you are. And this is where most men mess up They overthink every word they say, and it not only makes them seem weird and robotic, but it also limits how witty they appear. Men are constantly coming up with the complaint of I ran out of things to say. And I don t want that to be you anymore. Here are 3 things to remember about What to say, and when you realize them, you re timing [with practice] will become impeccable First off, we ve already discussed that the actual words you say account for only 7% of the impression you re making www.swaggersocial.com 22

Secondly, drop your need for the outcome. If you ever run out of things to say, it s most likely because you ve come down with a case of, what I like to call, writer s block of the brain. Now let s think about why writer s experience writer s block It s simply because they are trying to meticulously write a masterpiece as they go They are attached to the idea that they want to write the BEST piece of work possible, they want every word and sentence to be absolutely perfect, and as a result get hung up on the small stuff. Same with women If you really want her to like you The outcome in itself is making them frozen. www.swaggersocial.com 23

If you really want her to think you re witty or clever Then you are putting too much pressure on yourself to perform. Only when you can release the need for any outcome, then will you be able to unleash your natural wit. And lastly, stop judging your words before they come out. The only way to completely overcome writer s block of the brain is by dropping that filter which exists somewhere between your brain and your mouth. That filter is freezing you up, it s causing you to run out of things to say, and it s killing your wittiness and banter ability. For you re entire life, you ve been told to Think before you speak. I m giving you permission right now to STOP thinking before you speak. I know those are 3 big hurdles to overcome. But trust me, with a little bit of practice, you ll be unstoppably charismatic, charming, and witty with any girl. And finally F stands for Frames One could argue that the role we play in this world completely depends on our FRAME. A frame is simply another world for how you view the world the rules you perceive your reality to abide by. A perfect example to help you understand this is a parable, first heard told to me by a wise old mentor of mine: Two salesmen wake up one morning and there is a rain storm going on. One man looks out his window, sees the rainstorm and he says, Wow, what a storm! With weather like this they can t expect you to go out and make sales. And then he stays home... www.swaggersocial.com 24

Same morning, the other guy looks out his window, sees the same storm and says, Wow, what a storm! But you know what? With weather like this, what a great day to go out and make sales. Most everybody will stay home ESPECIALLY the salesmen. Life is all about perspective. Choose the lenses that you re going to be looking through. Here s another golden quote for you from the book Thick Face, Black Heart : The world will tend to accept whatever judgement you place on yourself. One more time for the cheap seats The world will tend to accept whatever judgement you place on yourself! This literally means that you can CHOOSE how the world works, and how the people in it react to you. And we ve already hinted at this fact when we talked about Disqualify Question: What do you think the frame of a beautiful girl in a bar is? Answer: Most women in social settings believe that men are supposed to approach them, impress them, and win THEM over. That is her frame. But like we said earlier in this chapter, YOU are the chooser in this interaction. That is your frame. Now as you can see, we have conflicting frames. Watch me as I bring this FULL circle When two people, with conflicting frames, come across each other like 2 bulls fighting for dominance This creates TENSION. This is why when Ryan Gosling delivers the line How are you doing this wildly sexy, but unbelievably cute thing that you re doing? The girl pauses for a moment to see how Ryan handles the tension that has now been created. www.swaggersocial.com 25

The stronger frame will win out every time. And the only way to know if you have the stronger frame is if she starts REACTING to your frame. For example, what happened in the previous Ryan Gosling example when he said the clever line, and stayed calm, cool, collected in the face of tension? She started laughing. In this case, her laughter was the positive reaction to his clearly stronger frame. Now what happened in the Aziz Ansari example? In the moment of tension, Aziz s weak frame broke under pressure, and he reacted to her by raising his eyebrows, changing the his vocal tonality, and becoming Approval Seeking. And here s the secret that nobody s ever told you She WANTS you to have the stronger frame. She s HOPING for the moment when she finally comes across a man who s grounded in his own reality because a woman s natural instinct is to want to be submissive to High Value men. So have a strong frame. Truly ground yourself in it. And realize that when tension arises, that s a GOOD sign www.swaggersocial.com 26

Because momentary tension, created by opposing frames, turns into sexual tension and attraction the essence of Fearless Banter. Another way to think about your frame is as a Character you want to play. For actors in Hollywood, they call this method acting. By going into Character, you ll no longer have to micro-manage all your words and nonverbals Simply choose your character, and let everything flow from there Now although I told you that I didn t want to give you a list of actual lines to just memorize and parrot, I think for some, it might be appropriate. Here are a few tried and true Frames or Characters that consistently attract beautiful women like gangbusters [Use these as training wheels to get the feel for what it s like to be witty, and spark some playful banter Pretty soon these will become so engrained into your natural personality, that you ll be surprised with some of the clever stuff you ll naturally start to come up with.] 1. The Justin Bieber The reason I made this first is because it s probably my favorite Frame to use right now. I would say that 95% of the time, my wittiness around women comes from the frame of She s just another girl who s trying to get me into bed, and is trying to take advantage of me. Some common things that might be said when coming from this frame are: You just use me for my body and not my mind. I m not just some piece of meat you know. I ve got to go to the bathroom. You better not roofie my drink while I m gone. You re not one of those crazy, stalker types are you? Not sure I can handle any more of those. www.swaggersocial.com 27

2. The Innocent Child This can be a very entertaining character to play, especially if everything about the way you carry yourself, and your nonverbal communication has already made her conclude that you are a man who probably gets laid a lot. Some common things this character might say: I can t go home with you. I m too shy for that. You re just trying to get me drunk, aren't you? Stop. I m a good boy. Stop being naughty around me. I might have to tell on you. 3. The Bad Boy All women have a part, deep within themselves, that is naughty and dying to be let out However, today s society makes women think that they always have to present themselves like a lady. Women fear letting out their naughty side because they don t want to be judged as a slut. Part of why a Bad Boy is so attractive to women is because she s following his naughty lead, and allows her to release that side of herself as well. After all, HIM of all people is not gonna judge her negatively for being bad A bad boy might say things like: I always knew you were the innocent type. It s too bad you re such a straight shooter We totally could of had some fun. We re doing (insert event). You can come, but only if you promise to keep up. Now there are a TON of other characters you can play For example, you can be Charming like James Bond. He s more direct in his intentions, yet has a way with words. www.swaggersocial.com 28

Or you can be an OCD Rockstar, like Russell Brand. There are almost no limits on the various different characters that you can choose to play. The only thing I would recommend is to always make sure that no matter what FRAME you choose Frame yourself as the Prize to be won over. Don t get it twisted big guy, women love to feel attraction, and they love the chase. Give them what they want by intentionally choosing the proper Frame that most fits your personality, and viewing yourself as the prize. And feel free to play around by switching up your style from time to time. Eventually you ll settle into one that you like best. So there you have it! The empirically tested formula that YOU will use to get laid from today until the end of time. D.T.F. = Disqualify + Timing + Frames = The Fearless Banter Formula. Gone are the days of canned lines, pickup routines, and running out of things to say. You now hold the power to Banter with ANY girl. Just remember that witty remarks, and banter, is just a spice in the entire interaction with her. They re temporary pings of man-to-woman attraction that keep her on the edge of her seat, excited to see where this adventure takes her But what about everything else? Yea, banter is just a spice, but where s the main entree? What are you supposed to talk about the rest of the time? Well good thing I m always thinking one-step ahead www.swaggersocial.com 29

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