Overview of Workshop 3: Qualities

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Brief Mindfulness at BUPA page 3.1 Overview of Workshop 3: Qualities Review of the second week Chocolate Meditation Exploring Qualities of experience in different senses The Gap Chart a model of how the mind works Approach Mode (instead of Auto-Pilot) o Savouring pleasure o Exploring the neutral & finding more life in it o Becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable Practice for the third week Review of the Second Week Step 1: In groups, review the key points we covered in the second workshop. Please nominate one person to take notes (and if that s you, here s a space to write them!) Step 2: What worked well for you in the second week? What did you learn? Take notes for your partner here:

Brief Mindfulness at BUPA page 3.2 The Gap Chart The Gap Chart is a very simple model of the mind. From our environment, we get various sensations the light reflected off the paper you re reading this on, the sounds around you, the feeling of the chair you re sitting in, maybe some lingering tastes from what you last ate or drank,. Each of these sensations has qualities. A taste might be bitter or sweet. A light might be bright or dim. A touch might be rough or smooth. In particular, these qualities may be pleasant, unpleasant or neutral. Sensations and their qualities are a given we can t control them. But we can have some control over how we respond. The more of a gap we can create between stimulus and response, the more chance we have of responding well. Our response comes in the form of thoughts, emotions and impulses. These aren t separate - emotions have a cognitive component to them, thoughts have an emotional component, and so on. (If you don t believe me, try feeling kind and gentle when your head is full of thoughts of what other people have been doing wrong!). To recognise how thoughts, emotions and impulses are all interlinked, we call them cittas a word which includes all 3. Cittas have direction. Some cittas lead to suffering, while others lead to enjoyment and happiness. In the heat of the moment, we often make unwise choices, and end up creating unnecessary suffering. But with a gap between sensations and response, we can make wiser choices. In this way, we can start to guide ourselves away from suffering and towards more enjoyable and happier states of mind.

Brief Mindfulness at BUPA page 3.3 Qualities: In General Note down some general qualities that you might experience in each sense e.g. a touch might be rough or smooth, a sound might be shrill or quiet. (Try to avoid ascribing responses to the sense-experiences - we re looking for e.g. loud rather than frightening ) Touch Sight Sound Taste Smell Qualities: Pleasant/Neutral/Unpleasant Note down some sensations in your experience right now that fit into each of these categories: Pleasant Neutral Unpleasant

Brief Mindfulness at BUPA page 3.4 Approach Mode Fleeing an Owl or Seeking out Cheese? In a 2001 experiment at the University of Maryland, students were asked to solve a simple puzzle. They were given a picture of a maze, with a mouse in the middle. They had to draw a line from the centre of the maze to the exit, to show the mouse the way out. For some of the students, there was a piece of delicious-looking cheese at the exit of the maze. For the others, there was no cheese, but a picture of an owl that was ready to pounce on the mouse. Then they were asked to do a creativity task. The group who d been helping the mouse find the cheese did twice as well as the group who had been fleeing the owl. What s going on here? Fleeing the owl even in imagination puts the brain into avoidance mode. This is about survival it closes down options and brings about an increased sense of vigilance and caution. Seeking the cheese, on the other hand, puts the brain into approach mode. This is characterised by increased playfulness and creativity, less caution and more willingness to experiment. In approach mode we re more open to new experiences. If that s what happens when we imagine a threat for a mouse depicted as a cartoon on a piece of paper, what about in real life? When we re working with a motivation of fear, the amygdala activates and diverts resources to large muscle groups, ready for flight or fight. It downregulates the pre-frontal cortex, where clear rational thinking takes place. Fear gives you a lobotomy! Approach Mode in Action How about when you re putting off a challenging task? That s a classic case of Avoidance Mode. The challenging project is uncomfortable, so naturally your mind keeps turning away from it to something more comfortable. In approach mode, however, you turn towards the uncomfortable sensation. You examine it, like a curious scientist. What s it like? How is it changing? How painful is it really? Often we find that the task is much more bearable than we feared. When we finally get going we wonder what the fuss was all about it s often a huge relief. And when we ve completed the challenge, doesn t that feel great? That s the approach mode in action. When we re trying to escape unpleasant sensations, we can get caught up in all sorts of distracting behaviour. But when we re willing to be with our experience just as it is, there s a palpable sense of freedom and relief. We re not fighting ourselves any longer, so we can just get on with things (or stop and enjoy the moment.)

Brief Mindfulness at BUPA page 3.5 Approaching Discomfort This doesn t just happen with difficult tasks it tends to happen with any uncomfortable or even painful sensation. Our mind sees it as a threat and tries to get away from it. At the simple biological level, this avoidance makes perfect sense if the fire gets too hot, move away quick before it burns us! But sometimes discomfort isn t like that. Some level of physical discomfort is inevitable, and if we re going to be happy we need to accept that. Otherwise we can end up like the princess with the pea under her mattress, demanding ever more mattresses to avoid feeling the pea. All the effort to get more and more layers is itself painful. Not only that, but taking this path makes us more sensitive to discomfort - taken to extreme, this would make life utterly unbearable. The alternative is to turn our minds towards the discomfort, and get interested in it, what it s like and how it s changing. The discomfort often turns out to be a lot less than we feared, and much easier to be with. A key quality here is curiosity the mind of a kind and curious scientist, or a child amazed by all the life in a little rock-pool. When we can observe our experience in this way, life becomes a lot easier. We re happier with things just as they are and more open to the pleasures life has to offer. Approaching Pleasure: Savour it. The approach-mode is useful for pleasurable sensation too. In auto-pilot we tend to notice the taste of the first mouthful and then after that it loses its novelty and we stop noticing. But we know it s nice so we crave more, taking our mind into the future, maybe even worrying if we ll get more. So there s a lot more pleasure available in our experience, just as it is, if only we stay with it and notice. All we have to do is stop and savour the pleasurable sensations, explore them and delight in them. That is the discipline of delight. Approaching the Neutral: Stay with it and Explore The third category of sensation is neutral neither pleasant nor unpleasant. If there s too much neutral sensation around, we tend to get bored. That leads to restlessness and distraction, when can end up in quite destructive behaviour. Once more the solution is to use the approach mode to turn towards experience, to explore it and find out what s really there. This takes some patience after all, the neutral doesn t seem very interesting but the result can be a much richer experience of life.

Brief Mindfulness at BUPA page 3.6 Week 3 Brief Mindfulness Activities Reconnect When do you already Reconnect? When else might you Reconnect? Body Scan 15 minutes this week When will you do your Body Scan? Mindful Walk What is your daily mindful walk? Qualities of Experience In the diary, note down examples of pleasant, neutral and unpleasant sensations you notice during any of the the mindful activities. Remember to savour your MAGIC MOMENTS!

Tues Weds Thurs Fri 15 minute Body Scan Reconnect and Mindful Activity Mindful Walk What sensations did you notice that were. pleasant neutral...unpleasant Brief Mindfulness at BUPA page 3.7 Week 3 Diary

Sat Sun Mon Tues 15 minute Body Scan Reconnect and Mindful Activity Mindful Walk What sensations did you notice that were. pleasant neutral...unpleasant Brief Mindfulness at BUPA page 3.8 Week 3 Diary