To find your social style, look at the two slides that follow. There will be four categories: Ask, Tell, Task, and Relationship. You are either an Ask type of person or a Tell type of person. You are also either a Task-oriented person or a Relationship-oriented person. Check the boxes that apply to you most.
Ask Vs. Tell ASK TELL! I m more reserved! I m more outgoing! I m unagressive! I m more assertive! I make thoughtful decisions! I make quick decisions! I avoid confrontation! I don t mind confrontation! I m very patient! I tend to be impatient! I reserve my opinions! I openly share my opinions! I m very easygoing! I tend to be more intense! I don t talk fast or loud! I tend to talk fast and loud! People often view me as shy! People often view me as or introverted outgoing or ambitious
Task vs. Relationship TASK RELATIONSHIP! I have guarded emotions! I m more free to share mine! I m more to the serious side! I m more to the playful side! I am disciplined about time! I am often late! I dress more formal! I dress more informal! I m strict about rules! I tend to be more lenient! I like to work alone! I like to work with others! I am hard to get to know! I am easier to get to know
YOUR STYLE Add up the check marks and the column that has the most checks is your style. So if you ended up: ASK and TASK You are an ANALYTICAL TELL and TASK You are a DRIVER ASK and RELATIONSHIP You are an AMIABLE TELL and RELATIONSHIP You are an EXPRESSIVE The following slides will give you an overall view of each style
Overview of The Analytical "Deep and thoughtful "Serious and purposeful "Genius-prone "Set high standards "Orderly and organized "Dry but witty sense of humor
The Analytical Strengths and Weaknesses "Perfectionist "Neat and tidy "Loyal "Economical "Self-disciplined "Moody "Critical "Negative "Indecisive "Over analyzing
How Analyticals Can Be Annoying " You want everything perfect " You make decisions to dang slow! " You don t socialize enough " You think too deep sometimes! " You re too picky about everything " You crawl into a shell and withdraw in conflict
How to Deal With Annoying Analyticals " Don t pressure them for decisions " Have the correct facts and information " Speak softly and calmly " Exercise patience around them " Practice being in an ask mode " Give them alone time and a private work area
Overview of the Driver "Dynamic and active "Not easily discouraged "Known as over-achievers "Exudes confidence "Moves quickly to action "Not detail-oriented
The Driver Strengths and Weaknesses "Determined "Independent "Productive "Visionary "Decisive "Unsympathetic "Insensitive "Harsh "Proud "Sarcastic
How Drivers Can Be Annoying " You re too insensitive " You roll over the top of people " You think you re always right " You re too competitive " You don t need people (too independent) " You spew sarcasm and try to control people in conflict
How to Deal With Annoying Drivers " Increase your pace " Get to the point! " Don t take them personally " Practice being in an task mode " Let them take the lead / give them more responsibility " Don t talk to them on airplanes!
Overview of the Amiable "Patient and well balanced "Quiet but witty "Sympathetic and kind "Inoffensive "They don t make waves
The Amiable Strengths and Weaknesses "Easygoing "Likeable "Diplomatic "Organized "Calm "Blasé "Selfish "Stubborn "Indecisive "Conflict avoiders
How Amiables Can Be Annoying " You re too sensitive " You let people roll over the top of you " You won t take a stand on issues " You drive too slow " You re too needy sometimes " You avoid conflict or give in too much and things get swept under the rug
How to Deal With Annoying Amiables " Be gentle/not brash " Don t overwhelm them or stress them " Show kindness and consideration " Slow your pace down / don t rush them " Ask them to share their opinion " Give them personal and sincere praise
Overview of the Expressive " The life of the party " Turn disaster into humor " Prevent dull moments " Generous people " Eternal optimists
The Expressive Strengths and Weaknesses "Outgoing "Ambitious "Charismatic "Enthusiastic "Young at heart "Disorganized "Undisciplined "Obnoxious "Loud "VERBOSE!
How Exppressives Can Be Annoying " You talk too much; you talk too loud " You exaggerate too much " You drive too fast and too carelessly " You are too reactive at times " You re not focused enough at times " You get obnoxious in conflict and attack people verbally
How to Deal With Annoying Expressives " Lighten up and have a sense of humor " Let them talk / vent " Show an interest in their interests " Let them have fun and party " Try to see the heart of the issue " Give them grace when they re in reactive mode
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