SOCIAL NINJA SMOKE BOMBS

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1 SOCIAL NINJA SMOKE BOMBS By Bobby Rio Page 1

2 If you are the big tree, we are the small axe. Sharpened to cut you down. Ready to cut you down. - From Bob Marley s Small Axe. Hey, I'm writing this to you from TSB's War Room Headquarters Just had a heated hour long argument with Mike Stoute who basically forbids me from continuing with these reports We compromised Page 2

3 There will be NO mention of The Howitzer, The Chameleon Report, or anything related to the "confidential social intelligence manuscript" to anyone but to our current members. Which is why you will NOT read about this on other blogs or websites (hell, even tsbmag.com won't publish this stuff and I'm a co-freaking-owner) I also ask that you please DO NOT forward any of these reports or podcasts to anyone that is not a current member (Especially the report where I'm wearing the Zorro Mask ) If my girl finds this stuff things could get sticky If you are a member and missed the previous programs you can find them here: The Howitzer download: The Chameleon Report: The thing with this shit I'm passing along is that it could be construed that I'm preaching mind control, or creepy stuff like that I assure you I'm not. I just like a little edge If I really thought you were going to use this stuff for anything but socializing, shenanigans, tomfoolery, or debauchery I would never have released it. So what I'm basically saying is I trust you guys So don't let me down. Use this stuff to pack your backyard with bikini clad women looking to play some naked Marco polo in your pool or to grab a gaggle of hotties and head down to the shore for the weekend for some good old fashioned beach blanket fun hell, the summer is coming and one of my favorite things to do is organize a giant camping trip, sit around with cool people roasting marshmallows and getting shit-faced in the middle of nowhere (plus something about being out in nature like that just gets women's panties in a frenzy) So what I'm basically getting at Be cool with this stuff. Page 3

4 Jedi Mind Tricks What I'm going to be discussing does not involved NLP or hypnosis so don't get scared that Bobby went all Ross Jeffries on you This is simply principles of persuasion and influence that we're all powerless against it doesn't involve reciting patterns or sub modalities or any of that hoopla It's just simple and effective mind fucking, really No I'm only kidding In the "confidential social intelligent manuscript" I focus on what my friend's and I used to lovingly refer to as "the sinister 6" which consist of reciprocity, liking, social proof, authority, scarcity, and consistency and commitment. So I'm going to stay away from "the sinister 6" here and spend some time talking about some other powerful weapons of influence that I left out of the upcoming manuscript. I'm going to simply present some concepts, and really leave it up to you to determine just how these concepts can fit in with the rest of your artillery THE ZEIGARNIK EFFECT This principle basically states that when things are left incomplete, we feel uncomfortable and our attention remains drawn to it until we can find some kind of resolution. For example: If I were to tell you a story and depart without finishing the end, I would be using The Zeigarnik Effect on you. The information I imparted through the story remains uncomfortably in your mind like an itch that you want to scratch. One of the effects of that incompleteness is that you would be curious about the end of the story. If a person ends a relationship with another, the rejected party often desires to know the reason why the relationship came to an end. If the person forcing the break-up is unable to provide a satisfying reason why (and let s face it, there seldom is one), the rejected party experiences frustration and confusion over the lack of closure. I really believe that the Zeigarnik Effect is the true cause of "the sickness" that I often write about. Most of the time that we really lose our shit over a girl is not because we find her Page 4

5 particularly special but more often because it ends abruptly and our mind cannot handle the lack of closure. This is partly why I suggested in the Howitzer program that you create a character that has various story lines going on at all times. This keeps your audience's attention focused on you. Have you ever found yourself flipping channels and you accidentally land on some Hallmark movie and you watch a few minutes of it and now you're HOOKED. Our minds absolutely hate not knowing the ending to something (Even if it's something that we had no interest in to begin with like an episode of ) Sometimes I use this principle just to fuck with my girl for my own amusement I'll randomly send her a text that says, "Call me when you get a chance, we need to talk." And then I'll turn my phone off. She'll stress out like crazy for a couple hours dying to know exactly what I wanted to "talk" about. Finally I'll answer my phone and when she asks what I wanted to talk about I'll say, "Oh, I just wanted to know if you wanted Chinese food or pizza for dinner?" It drives her crazy. Cause when we don't know the answer our mind starts searching for it. And that's when things can get ugly. We become almost fixated on "knowing" So the million dollar question is: How can use the Zeigarnik Effect to keep the minds of those around you focused on you? No, I'm not going to tell you It's a lot more fun when you figure it out for yourself. Page 5

6 CONFORMITY TO EMOTIONS Conformity to Emotions is similar to Conformity to Group Norms. Just as we like to share opinions with the rest of the herd, we also tend to match our emotions to those expressed by others around us. The idea is that emotion comes from a combination of: Page 6

7 1. arousal (the feeling or stimulation in its raw state, unanalyzed and unlabeled) 2. The mind making sense of the situation the person is in. Using these two factors, the person is able to describe what kind of emotion they are feeling, based on the observations they have made around them. For example: A couple people are in a room surrounding a guy. The guy in loud and wildly telling inappropriate -but funny jokes. A woman is having a weird sensation as she doesn't know what this feeling is that she experiencing listening to this off kilter humor when she looks around everyone else is smiling and laughing so she naturally concludes that she must be feeling happy. All this happens very quickly and we are not aware of the process taking place. An implication that can be made is that to some degree, we use our surroundings to interpret how we are feeling. So, if we are feeling an emotion and we see that we are surrounded by happy people, we are more likely to interpret that we must be feeling happy too. Use in Socializing The entire objective of taking this principle and relating it to your social life is to figure out a way to anchor the feelings of fun, excitement, adventure, and happiness to you. You can find a good example of this on TV Did you ever watch a show with one of the ridiculous laugh tracks? And did you find yourself laughing at something you normally wouldn't have just because the laugh track was in full effect? The basic idea is that you can control the emotions of those around you simply by having the most dominant emotion in the room. And giving others permission to follow your lead I had a friend who excelled at this and in turn was ALWAYS one of the most popular guys in any social scene he entered. And he ALWAYS had the one of the hottest girls around. His Secret He had a unique power to always make wherever he was the most important place on earth. He was never hesitant to recommend a new trendy hip spot And even if the place wound up sucking... he always came out looking like a winner. Page 7

8 Why? Because he was able to control the emotions of those around him. I remember one time he kept telling me how good this burrito joint was in Hoboken. For months he told how much I was going to love the burritos. When I finally took my first bite of the burrito for a minute I was disappointed. But then I looked at him and he seemed so genuinely pleased as he dug into his burrito that I thought I must just be missing something.. So I took another bite. And it tasted a bit better. And as he stuffed the burrito into his mouth commented how good this place is I slowly found myself agreeing with him. By the end of the meal I was texting how good the burritos were. It is a gift he had. The same thing would happen when we walk into a bar only to find out it was completely empty. Our first reaction would be to think "this place is dead let's leave " But not Scot He would simply say "This is exactly what I wanted tonight A nice quiet night to chill with some good people. No crowds. No noise. Just good beer, and better conversation" And by the end of the night.. We would all feel that exact way. It was amazing. Page 8

9 REFRAMING If you've been around the seduction community for awhile you've probably heard of the concept of frame control Well this is very similar. In frame control you're basically having the more dominant frame (sort of like we talked about above in regards to controlling emotion) A very simplified example of frame control would be changing the frame of the situation while hitting on a beautiful woman at a bar. Her frame is her immediate world. And in her world you're some random dude with sub-par game trying to talk his way into her panties If you want success with that you need to reframe the entire interaction And you do that by taking the more dominant frame. Like I said this example is super simplified to prove a point But what you could do is reframe the interaction by having open dialogue with several people in her immediate vicinity Now when you turn to talk to her, you've been reframed as simply a social guy conversing with her just as you would with any other human being in the bar. But reframing also has other implications You can change the entire meaning of something: The bar isn't empty and dead it's intimate and exclusive You're not lazy you're laid back. You're not dateless on a Friday night you're just in the mood to chill with the guys She didn't dump your ass you both decided things were moving too fast The more persuasive of a person you are the more powerful re-framing can be. I have a friend that is nearly 37 years old and still lives at home with his mother. Page 9

10 But his frame is so dominant though that when you try to rip on him for it, he easily twists it around to the point where you're agreeing with him that it s a smart decision to still live with mommy You're not still living at home you're about to buy your dream house Get it? If you can mix this along with the conformity to emotions you've got a gun packed with some powerful powder. BOILING FROG This is basically the idea that if you stick a frog into a pot of boiling water -it will immediately jump out. If on the other hand, you put the frog in cold water and let the water simmer to a boil... the frog will never make an attempt to escape. Let's use an example you can relate to Did you ever hook up with a girl you weren't really interested in? And then a week later she calls out of the blue and asks you to hang out, and you say "what the hell" And then over the next month or so every once in awhile you'll hang out with her no pressure or anything until one day you wake up and realize this fat piggy is your girlfriend. That is a perfect example of boiling frog... Page 10

11 Had she come right out and said "I want something serious" you'd have run for the hills... but because she roped you in really slowly over time, eventually it was too late to escape. This is a super ninja technique to lead people to a destination you want to get them to. I've also said that one of the biggest reasons men are not successful with women is because they lack the patience necessary to let a seduction run its course. Here is an example of way you can use the boiling from to build a social circle. This is something that I've spoken about before, but it is worth repeating It involves Facebook. Say there are a circle of girls that you're dying to break into. But right now you don't know them nearly enough to invite yourself along with them Here is where patience comes in. Over the course of a month or two you to slowly escalate your interactions with them. It might start out with some random Facebook comments then escalate to the occasional message then a friendly text message maybe you catch them online and chat a bit all the while you're doing nothing that can be construed as intrusive Before they know it they feel like they've known you for years And when you invite them to a party they feel really bad declining. In fact, by this time they will be dying to meet you in person. Page 11

12 CAMEL'S NOSE Similar to the boiling frog, but the camel's nose is where you lead someone on with a promise only to rope them in and never deliver... Every girlfriend I've ever had did this to me In the beginning of the relationship they would always make comments that would lead me to believe they were bi-sexual they would even hint that they were open to a threesome then they would tell me that it had to be the right girl... then as I started pointing out girls they would always find a reason why she isn't the right girl Page 12

13 Finally I would realize I got hosed again, and old bobby wasn't going to bounce around the bedroom with his girlfriend and one of her friends anytime soon Don't take this to mean be the guy always over promising and under-delivering. That's not what I mean. Everyone hates that guy But if you allude to something where you let the other person draw their own mistaken conclusion then it really isn't your fault, is it? I'm going to talk about something I did my first trip down to Brazil that I regret. But it is a perfect demonstration of the use of the camel's nose. Down in Brazil it is known that the women love the idea of getting whisked away to America with some young American stud. It is engrained in their culture. And regrettably I played to this my first time in Brazil. Although I would never actually tell any of the girls I wanted meet a nice Brazilian girl to bring home to mommy I alluded to it. I would make statements about how much I hated American girls. I would talk about how I was studying Portuguese. How sexy I found Latin girls. How I love Brazilian cooking Basically I let them jump to their own conclusion. And it usually wound up with them ultra-eager to please old Bobby. PRESUPPOSITIONS In language, a presupposition is a pre-existing belief present in the background of a sentence. A sentence that uses a presupposition is one which relies on a certain belief to be taken for granted first, in order for the remainder of the sentence is held to understood or held as true. Another word that may be used is assumption. Presuppositions with little basis in fact are peppered throughout language all the time. However, because of the "quiet" nature in which they are presented, they are not often observed by the listener and therefore are taken for granted as being true. In fact, you can get someone to believe a presupposition (which under any other circumstances they might question), simply by distracting them by other facts in your sentence. For example: Page 13

14 Before I read The Game, I found it really hard to meet women. The presupposition: I used to be a loner. Do you see how I painted an entire story with one short sentence? The story that flashed into your mind may have varied depending on what your experience with the seduction community is, but chances are it went something like this: He was a nerd in high school. He was probably always too shy to talk to women, or they just viewed him a friend. He would constantly get one-itis over girls. Then one day someone recommended he read The Game. After reading the game he discovered the entire online seduction community. He studied for a year or two reading as much stuff as possible and probably posting on forums and maybe even attending a bootcamp After a lot of struggle he finally got good enough to score some numbers and close some girls. Bearing in mind that all this would have happened in nano-seconds, and was processed through your subconscious. Whenever your brain has to fill in a blank for something else, it is more powerful and more likely to create a belief in your mind, because it's not someone stating it directly for you; it's your brain creating a reality out of implication, and the brain never mistrusts itself! A certain amount of "blank-filling" is necessary in order to function in everyday life (otherwise a simple conversation would take days to finish). How to use this for social influence? Isn't it obvious? This is the kind of shit the Howitzer was built on. You're letting people form their own story in their mind. What does this sentence apply to you? Before I landed Beth, my confidence was complete shit Page 14

15 Without me making any direct statements, you can assume a couple of things: 1. Beth must have been pretty damn hot 2. I'm pretty confident with women Had I said "I scored a really hot chick and now I feel completely I'm confident with women" I would have come off like a pompous bragger Take some time and jot down some of the ways that you can use presuppositions in your conversations to get certain points across. FOOT IN THE DOOR Basically if you're trying to break into a new social scene you start with a really small request. Once someone has said yes to a small request on your part they are much likely later to say yes to a larger request. This is something I used with TSB. When I first wanted to get interviews with some of the bigger name gurus I would interview and ask them if they would be willing to answer a few questions over once they did that- later I would hit them up for an hour long phone interview the ones who I first asked the simple request were about 5 times more likely to respond to the phone interview later on. In a social setting this could be used by asking a girl from your math class to stop at the cafeteria with you on your way out of class for a quick coffee and to review notes Then a week or so later you ask her to meet you at your dorm room to study since she already committed to studying with you once she'll be more likely do so a second time- even if the request is greater than the first time. This is just a taste of what you're going to learn in The Confidential Social Intelligence Manuscript: Page 15

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